Losing my Virginity

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Contrary to New Telegraph’s article, “Virginity isn’t something to regret losing.” I’m wholeheartedly telling you- Virginity is something you’ll regret losing if you haven’t lost it already. You may not agree with my methodologies, but the bible does, it says that soon as a man and woman join, they become one body and that’s a spiritual fact. Even the Quran condemns it. Purity and chastity may have gone out of fashion, the scriptures may be archaic, but wrong will never become right just because it is accepted by majority.

Sex and intimacy are not the same thing. Dr. Patricia Love, the author of Truth About Love, writes that “a feeling of intimacy is created by a “chemical cocktail” that is produced in the brain during sex and stays with each person for up to 24 hours after intercourse.” Having sex is no guarantee that the deep emotional intimacy that everyone longs for will develop. You could be fucked and forgotten. Girls stand even greater risk to be latter. A slight sting of solitude is a far lesser pain than permanent heartache from someone of the opposite sex.

Am I trying to say a relationship without sex exists? Yes, if only you’re serious enough about it. Relationships aren’t built on cold stone, sex and dominos. A true relationship is about trust, honesty, respect and Intimacy. Intimacy is about closeness, about being together and about creating and maintaining a relationship.

Stay away from friends that appropriate immoralities. Stay away from girls that tell you, “It’s normal, just little blood and you’re done with it.” Facing reality, sex comes with babies, babies cause abortions. Abortions come with consequences. Don’t be the girl that wakes up to, “Your Uber is outside.”
Most especially stay away from, “I can’t be in a relationship without sex” kind of guys. 100% of them aren’t there for the relationship, just the sex.

Everything has got its own timing. If you jump a step, you could trip. My Uncle Allen once said, “The Ghost of the past always comes hunting, you’ll never forget him, Chisom, never.”

All you need is the light of God’s grace to decide wisely concerning the person who’s to be your partner through life. One who is loyal, upright, pure, sincere and noble, whom God judges best to be united with you in marriage. So that with pure, unselfish love, you may both strive to perfect yourselves.

From a Chisom that cares!

Comments

  1. Franklin19 February 2019 at 07:10

    Wonderful write-up. Even though, sometimes people had their first sex cause they wanted it.

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  2. Unknown19 February 2019 at 08:16

    This is a really good right up. I would have loved to chip in my little immoral advice about the first sex but seeing your perspective I think we'll agree to disagree. It's a really nice one I must say.

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  3. Unknown19 February 2019 at 08:27

    Wow,love this write up.thumbs up to you my chisom.

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  4. Unknown19 February 2019 at 09:18

    Nice one Juanita..👍

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  5. Unknown19 February 2019 at 12:01

    Now she's shaking tables.

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  6. Ayomide Agboola19 February 2019 at 15:23

    Your ability to be precise about what's right is endearing girl. well-done.

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  7. SKIZBLOG20 February 2019 at 04:18

    Brilliant ❤

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  8. Favour Angel20 February 2019 at 05:08

    Juanita this is a very brilland and self expressed write up...which alot of girls dat is just waking up too reality need to read...

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  9. Unknown20 February 2019 at 06:10

    "Relationship without exist" I do concur. I suggest further research on how to build and maintain one.

    Since most time even after avoiding bad influences,big problem arise from inclinations of our corrupt nature.

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  10. Unknown25 February 2019 at 05:19

    Yes, even though it shouldn't be about virginity, even if uve done it countless times before,that doesn't mean it's right,you can decide to keep ur dignity and trust me u mustn't b a virgin.it applies to everyone because no one is above mistake.

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  11. Martins John8 May 2019 at 01:42

    Nice one Chisom, many people need to read this.

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  12. Martins John8 May 2019 at 01:52

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  13. Martins John8 May 2019 at 01:53

    Nice one Chisom, more Grace to you, keep it up.

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  14. Olis15 June 2019 at 14:31

    Wow in a dying generation with less morals there people who still stand for what's right and decent. Keep it up

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  15. Unknown28 October 2019 at 14:08

    Nice!..apparently sex has become a norms for a lot of people..its sad really.

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